Learning from Others: The Value of Foreign Cultural Influences

The majority of my friends would be considered of 'foreign origin' ... and I wouldn't have it any other way. They come from all around the globe - from Tonga to Punjab, Uzbekistan to Finland, Eritrea to the Dominican Republic, and many more places. I must admit, I am a xenophilliac. However, from being one, much is there to be learned.

I have only a couple of friends of Japanese origin, and they are already Americanized and nearly fully integrated into the society. Their parents, however, still hold some of the traditions. One that I love and have adopted for my own is cleanliness, especially emulated by the removal of shoes before entering the home. Additionally, the simplicity in design shows true class and style, as respect for the environment and harmony is of great importance in their house.

For a country that officially obtained its independence about 15 years ago after decades of struggling, knowing your exact heritage is a given. You will never hear a true Eritrean allowing himself to be grouped in with Ethiopians ... not because they necessarily have a prejudice against individual Ethiopians, but because they understand how difficult it is to fight for your freedom and the right to have control over your own land.

Most Americans are not aware of their exact heritage, and even if they are, they generally categorize themselves as "white." The 'melting pot,' or assimilation, so encouraged by the USA's society and government leads to each generation forgetting more and more of who they really are... making it more difficult to know who they will become.

My Indian friends' roots are spread all throughout their home country. Many are from the north, in Punjab, some are from Hyderabad and Mumbai in the south. From them I have learned the importance of a strong family connection and always honoring your family.

The brothers do not marry until all of their sisters have a husband, and for one friend of mine, that means 5 sisters until he is able to take a wife for himself. Many still live at their parents' home, even after marrying. They always remain close ... and those who don't are essentially outcasted from their local society because a family's honor, name, and reputation are entirely too important to them.

The people most well-known for their great hospitality are definitely those in the Middle East. They open their homes to nearly any guest, offer tea and coffee to folks merely browsing their shops, and provide a spread of meat and delicacies to those who stay over. It is the most important thing to take care of the guest first, providing him with the best linens, even if that means you sleep on less yourself.

Take pride in who you are and what your background is. You should never deny the elements that have made you, and even display it proudly. If this means flags, parades, tatoos... you go the length that is comfortable. But definitely don't hide your true self, love yourself for all you have to offer, and others will, too.

While every culture and foreign influence has something wonderful, you should only learn the good from them. The grass will indeed always seem greener on the other side, and you must control just how much of the grass you're going to take. Be the best person you can be, keep an open-mind, and you will love the life you have.